As I was driving to my middle son’s field trip yesterday, I had this song on repeat. I was looking at the trees with so much love. Truly, I can tap into to this pulse of the Universe. This wild and ancient knowing of our true power and that of the Universe. I’m so connected to nature. It is a deep feeling I can’t explain really. But as I was feeling so alive and in love with life, letting the music caress my soul, grateful I’m an entrepreneur and have the freedom to plan my life, day, and vibe. I choose joy. Is everything perfect in my life? No. But it’s pretty damn wonderful.
No makeup, just pure sunscreen and bug spray, full of happiness with my middle boy. His trip was to Cold Spring Village in Cape May, NJ. I have been there two other times, each on a field trip with my older two kids. I forget everything each time, so it was new to me. First stop was a home built in 1820. I looked on the website and I think it’s the Spicer-Leaming house. We learned so much. Like blow your mind learning. Boys were married at 16, girls were married at 13. Their parents choose who you would marry. Men died at 45, women died at 35. They often died at childbirth and disease was killing everyone off due to the uncleanliness and spread of germs. I think she said if you had 8 kids, 5 of them would die. They didn’t name their babies until they were 9-12 months old. Breaks my heart thinking of how much sadness that they had to deal with. You had no freedom. Women couldn’t even drink at the tavern. LOL! That was a dealbreaker for me. I would have truly been burned at the stake. I’m too rebellious by nature and ain’t no man gonna boss me around. The moms and teachers were all saying how we would not have fit in then. These women are independent and speak their minds. My kind of gals. Oh…and when you died, your family put your dead body on the kitchen table and put flowers around you so you didn’t stink as much. The rotting body on the table caused many of the health problems obviously.
This guy was acting like he was a teacher back in the 1800’s. I stood outside to enjoy the sunshine with my friend, Jill. We could hear his sternness and then the kids laughed. He punished them by making one kid wear a dunce cap and another one by standing on a brick. It was to shame them. I can see how shame was so ingrained in that culture and the next two generations. Everyone was not allowed to feel. It was pretend, keep in line, be reserved. Wild was not allowed. Again, I would have been burned at the stake. I would have let my wild slip out at some point. I imagine there was no room for desire, so they had a lot of anger inside at not being allowed to be in love and make love to who they wanted. How many gay people died a regretful life having never truly loved back then? I think about feelings, versus isn’t the carpenter exhibit cool. Although he did inspire Finn to want to be a carpenter now…for this week at least.
I got the feels for a second in the printing press seeing old newspapers and as a writer, thinking of how much freedom is created through writing. Not that I think they could write what whatever they wanted of course. The first sign, how true is the top line! The second part is hilarious. The coffee sign cracked me up too. Female writers always seemed so saucy and daring back in the day and of course…still.
The kids had a great day and so did I. Hanging out with my girl, Jill, who was in our group needs to be done more often. Duh…we talked about Prince. I’m going to call her Princess from now on. She’s the bees’ knees. I got to give hugs and kisses to my friend. Christine’s daughter, Waverly. I adore her and Christine. I got to also hug my friend, Jaime, who I have not seen in ages. Also, my friend Tobi who I feel like no time has passed since the field trip last year. I was honored to get smiles and a few words from my friends Stacey, Jenny, Steffanie and a few other chicas. Finn’s teacher, Mrs. Naplacic, is so real and funny. That seems to be a theme around me. I know so many fierce and fabulous women. It’s so cool.
I had a newfound gratitude and fresh perspective on my life and how much freedom I have. The day ended so beautifully with me putting on my bikini and heading to the beach with my hubby, kids, and meeting my fabulous photographer friend, Violet. She did my most recent photoshoot and she is not only a joy to work with, but super talented. Just look at my website.
I took a picture of myself, her, the beach, and then my phone died and was off the grid for a few hours. It was so freeing. But I wish I could have shown you all the glorious blues that lit up my children’s eyes as the sun set. It was a goosebump happy I’ll never forget. Finn came down after his playdate on the playground. I actually felt like a millionaire already. I felt the riches. I am so rich. Whoa on the blessings for sure. i could not have asked for more in that moment.
I tried to capture her beauty and how her mirrored glasses were reflecting the blues of the sky and ocean. She looked so dreamy! But she clearly is the photographer. We talked God, problems, fears, had some laughs, and prayed together. That’s how I roll. The link to her website is below.
My shirts which would definitely gotten me burned.
Never be afraid of your wild. It’s part of your power. As women, it is what connects us to that force when we give birth. You’re magic. Be unapologetic true to you. Have a blessed day, sweet cheeks!
P.S. Ended the day with Skinnygirl Spicy Margaritas while watching Real Housewives and There Goes The Motherhood…cause you know…balance. 😉 A few of the moms from #TGTM were tweeting back to me so it was really fun. They are some great moms. Life is good. Always look for the good.
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