Why I’m a phony?

And you are too.
What?
Blasphemy for a life coach!

Do I really believe this?

No.  I think we are all human.  I think some of us try to focus on the positive.  And if you are promoting your business, lifestyle, coaching or positioning yourself as an expert…you should have ALL your shit together.

A.  This is a perfectionist trap.
B.  This would mean you would have to live in a hut in the middle of nowhere ALONE with all your needs taken care of.

You know…conditions would have to be PERFECT.  Hahahaha!  My life in in New Jersey.  I have five kids.  They are all spirited with complex personalities.  Obviously all kids are, but most of mine are fiery.  Wonder where they get it from.  😉

Even if you are just on social media for fun, you are not being 100% authentic.  I try to be heart authentic as possible, but I’m not posting pics of my junk drawers (yes, plural) or how my bathrooms need to be cleaned. Does this mean people can’t know the real me.  The real me is ALL of it, good, babd, and ugly but lots of times I can’t post stuff related to other people in my life and it’s their business anyway.  Does it hold me back as a writer and blogger…at times yes.  Does it hold me back as a life coach, to not post all the rawness?  No, but dealing with it makes me a better life coach, as I gain more experience, wisdom, knowledge, compassion, clarity, and focus.  You should know I talk to coaches all the time and behind-the-scenes they are struggling, working on, or dealing with something they don’t post about.  They are still being authentic and not phony.  They may use filters on their photos.  I do all the time.  They use retouched photos for their ads and it’s just smart business.  Let’s let go of judging others and ourselves so harshly.  Let people own their best selves and cheer them on as they get closer to it.  I’m cheering you all on and don’t judge you for where you are now.  It’s just today.  Your future self is being created right now.

So if you think you know me from social media, just like all of us, you get a snippet of my life.  Not everyone can be in our private life. I hope you all have friends who can help you when you are going through something…because some people never let anyone in.  If you are going through relationship problems with a partner, child, parent, sibling, or friend, sometimes it’s hard to talk about as it confirms it to be real.  Or we may cry if we start talking.  I have had some really stressful things going on lately (not with the hubs so don’t even get any ideas-LOL!).  I don’t post this on social media, but I will share what I learn on the other side.  If it looks like I am a phony because I post happy things, pretty selfies, and inspiring quotes and you know in my “real life” I have what you would call “problems”…that’s on you.  I am being me in the best way I can.  Going on rants online is not my thing.  Problems are opportunities for solutions.  Just like questions are creating answers.  It’s all about perspective.   There is juice in all of it to be gained.  Be easy on yourself and others. Everyone has got some “stuff.”

I love you guys!

Wishing you all abundant success, passion, happiness, and peace wrapped up in love,
Jenny G. Perry
Mojo Expert-Life Catalyst

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That’s my word for this year.

And stepping into my Goddess self further, it’s my Goddess year too.  I thought after I had my fifth child 12-26-13, that 2014 would be my best year.  It was in the way of how much I fell in love deeper with my Dylaney Maeve, AKA Dylan.  But the juggling career, five kids, and taking classes was an adventure.  At times, I felt like a phony, that my message was not true in my own life.  My vibe would dip and I’d try to figure out what I should focus on, even though I think should is a dirty word…not the good kind either.

I put my dreams on the side so I could learn.  Yes, I was in Oprah magazine and had blogs on Huffington Post.  But the daydream, envisioning stuff seemed too hard to picture when I was just trying to keep swimming. (Finding Nemo analogy rocks.)  It was almost at times when I was getting business advice that I was listening to someone else’s life plan.  Yes, I’m a rebel and if you tell me not to do something, I will question it…even if I don’t tell you.  As a leader, teaching others and also in my coaching, I want people to feel deep inside to what THEIR truth is. I may have the God’s honest truth I am presenting even as I get intuitive hits for their life, but it doesn’t mean jack shit if they are not ready to hear it.

If this 37 year old self would have told me what I speak of now in my twenties, at times I could have not heard it.  It’s like when I turn on Spanish novellas, which look really interesting but my brain can’t comprehend it. I can get mad at my limitations or make it wrong that we have more than one language, but I’d rather just observe it.  If you can’t hear me, it’s okay.  Just play with some new ideas for the New Year.

What will your word be for 2015?  They say how you spend New Year’s Eve or New Year’s Day is how you’ll spend the year.  If you didn’t spend it wisely, EVERY day is a fresh start.  Start tomorrow.  Let’s play a game.

It’s a list that’s nothing like resolutions.  Pretend you’re a different person right now, a free spirited, badass, spy type person.  Okay, you don’t need to be a spy, but just be good with keeping missions to yourself.  You’re going to create a list called “The Secret List of Awesomeness,”  We could call it whatever we want…like “Secret Outrageous List” (AKA SOL list).  Hehe!

This list I’m making I will not share with anyone except my hubby because he’s my soulmate and he isn’t a dream squasher.   This is what you really want.  List the fun stuff.  The things you secretly wish for, but are afraid to ask.  No limits or judgement.  Just a teaser of mine:

1. I’d like to drink really expensive champagne.
2. I want to get an amazing new SUV.
3. I’d like to go to California.

Yes, I want my book to be #1 and my family to be happy and healthy, this is for FUN!  That could almost be my word of the year, but that’s every year.  How much fun can you have this year?

Don’t contemplate problems, wonder about fun.  How many belly laughs, orgasms, yummy pieces of chocolate, sunsets will you experience this year?  Seriously?  What are you making for?  What if it was your last year?  Not to be morbid, but how much fun are you willing to have this year?  Intend it.  Open to it?  This list is Divinely blessed if you say so.  Release it to the Universe.

Much love,
Jenny

Btw…my favorite chocolate is:  here.