Mamma Mia

Yesterday, I took a much needed mommy day off. It’s been a long and short summer. Long when the kids were fighting. Short when I counted the seconds of sunshine, no schedules and the beach. I took some time off in general and made myself take a look at how everything was working or not working. More on that later.

Jennylicious takes Manhattan.
Jennylicious takes Manhattan.

After a ride up to Toms River, NJ, we hopped on a bus and headed to the city. I took that time to go through “The Desire Map” by Danielle LaPorte. She’s one of the goddesses I follow and adore. I got real with myself on what I felt, feared, and wanted. Still feeling the unraveling today. So back to the picture. I love taking pictures and having fun. You can see I have no problem being a goober.

Looking for my caricature doppelganger.
Looking for my caricature doppelganger.

My older daughter told me I was so embarrassing taking pictures. I told her that’s my job. She looked like a cool city chick from a fashion blog.  Wish I had a full pic, but she posted one on Instagram.  We giggled guessing the celebrity caricatures on the walls of Sardi’s, one of the New York City’s famous restaurants.  I had Tomato and Mozzarella Salad, Organic Baby Greens salad, and a Portabella Sandwich, washing it down with two glasses of some good Merlot.

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On the left is my gorgeous older daughter, McKayla, my beautiful Mommy, myself, and my cutie twin-little sizzler, Lizzy. I look like a short person, but I just play one online. 😉

Yes, you already saw my outfit in my classic tourist Times Square photo but I love me a bathroom selfie. A woman asked me where I got this dress. I got it last year from Victoria’s Secret and wore it for my sister’s rehearsal dinner and for our family beach portraits. Tan faux suede fringe sandals I got online from Wet Seal and the nandbag my mom was getting rid of and I brought instead of my big blue Michael Kors bag. I need one of those cute bags for travel when I don’t a million mom things to tote around.

I'm serious about fun.

I didn’t snap show pics because you aren’t suppose to and I was having too much fun enjoying it. Mamma Mia is closing on Broadway next month and I’ so glad we saw it. I loved the movie and the music is timeless. I’m in awe of live performances. I cried twice. Once over a love scene and at the end, knowing it was closing and having one of those soul bursting moments. I cherish these family girl day trips to NYC that we take at least once a year.  SO much work goes into the shows and all that talent just inspires me. And I’m a sucker for sequins.

Givency Rose Dentelle

We went into Sephora, THE MECCA, as we always do.  They secretly took bets that I would buy lipstick. What can I say…I love lipstick!  This lipstick is the perfect end of summer beginning of fall creamy full bodied and yet light color. II sound like I’m describing wine. This color is also becoming for any complexion. Car selfies on the way home once I finished my book and new intentions, I needed to NOT have to think.

Back to real life today, dishes, laundry, refereeing, and business. I wrote out some new house rules and a new mission for our family. I had a therapist this summer tell me my parenting sucked in different words. He has never been to my home and only met one of my kids, but he did get me thinking. This Mama has to restructure her household on a vibrational level so I can make everyone semi-happy including myself, but especially for the little one below. She deserves to have a peaceful home. Maybe when I raise them all, I’ll write a parenting book. That would be in twenty years if ever. In the meantime, you can read what I’m reading “The Conscious Parent” by Dr. Shefali Tsabary. I am seeing my ego in full effect lately without vilifying it, but rather through awareness, floating back to being conscious. You can’t fake when you’re feeling bad that you are all happy. Thank God I have the tools I do as a life coach, but I am still going to feel. Being human is normal regardless of what anyone else’s life “looks” like.

Got her purse and her phone like her mommy

Dylan kept handing me the phone asking to talk to her big sister, Ka, AKA McKayla or Kayla.  She is a firecracker. Wonder what she will teach me next.  She teaches me I need to work on trust and patience already.  She climbs on EVERYTHING and has me saying “Mamma Mia!”  My younger boys are saying “Mylanta” in moments like those.  They got that from Jason on Big Brother 17.  It’s our summer guilty pleasure.  I would be the first one booted off.  I would try to coach everyone, wouldn’t want to lie, and I’d miss my kids and hubby too much.

Anita's Guacamole is so good it should be illegal.
Anita’s Guacamole is so good it should be illegal.

Time to cook up some of these veggies I got from our farm market on Wednesday in our town during the summer. No herbicides or pesticides, I got these with some fresh made cheese and other goodies. More pictures to follow. Enjoy your weekend. If you get the chance to visit New York City, do it. It should be on your bucket list. There are crowds, but the pulse is indescribable. It is what it feels like to be alive. I brought that back to Jersey and I’m going to make life exciting in my world.

What New Mommies Need

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I have been wanting to help new mommies because I have become a new mom five times. I am always a new mom each time. But the first time, I was twenty. I cared what other people thought and read the books to do it all perfectly. I didn’t understand how to be a woman and a mom. My body was huge. I felt like I was an alien on a foreign planet. I was 200 pounds when I delivered my daughter. I gained 65 pounds. I didn’t feel sexy, cool, or like myself. I was so happy and proud to be a mom. But I had to figure out who I was. I’m not gonna lie, it took me almost fifteen years later. Our thirties are epic in my experience. So with my last child, giving birth at 36, I was still me before and after. I only gained fifteen pounds because I exercised and ate really healthy. I knew my sexy was my sensual being, not my body. I want to pass on some tips to help you feel like you can get your groove back. You never lose your mojo, you just forget you have it, like that black blazer in the back of your closet.

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Do what makes you feel cool! Cause you are. Rock that blazer, black liner, and shades. Insta-cool.
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Dontcha love the hair loss and lil’ baby bangs goin’ on. I contemplated bangs like I did when this happened after the last pregnancy.

 

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Before I share my Feel Good & Look Fabulous tips. Get a playpen like the one above which is Evenflow Portable Baby Suite 300 Play Yard-Marianna. Use a bouncy seat, swing, or the infant carrier and get your booty moving. Fitness is a feel good must-have. I would love to support you as your Beach Body coach if you order DVD’s or Shakeology (this is what I so so I share what works for me.)

www.teambeachbody.com/jennygperry

Do whatever your body is asking for in the form of movement. It’s easy to get very coach potato and sweats with a new baby, especially if you’re breastfeeding like I do. But I promise you if you workout, even just walking, you will have more energy. Nutrition is so overlooked in the way of medicine for our brains. Comfort food is fried, creamy, heavy foods, but really the foods like cashews that help with anxiety and depression are what our body really craves. Drink tons of water too. So now to the fun part. Fashion is one of my passions as well. Now following trends may not be your thing anymore or never was, but tweaking your look and routine can actually make you feel better.

5 Feel Good & Look Fabulous:

1. Hair is hot. No matter how you feel about your body, you can look beautiful at ANY size. Go get your hair done. Color it. Style it. Do a cute messy bun. Add a barrette or headband. This frames your face. I caution you not to cut your hair frantically shorter within the first six months of having a baby. Your hormones are on overload and drastic change can actually feel bad and then we regret it. That’s my personal experience, but just go with your own guidance always.

2. Connect with women who honor you and your mother’s intuition no matter how long you’ve been a new mom. Make a coffee date with goddesses like that without your baby and get dolled up. Self-care will make you a better mommy.

3. Black is always cool. Black leggings are a go to if you are done with wearing maternity jeans, even though there is nothing wrong with them. Heading into Autumn in the US, black leather jackets, leggings and a loose long sleeve tee/tunic/sweater is the perfect uniform for a new mommy. If you’re breastfeeding and you love dresses but don’t know how to work that out, wrap dresses. Old Navy has them in great colors for a great price that you can dress up or dress down. Whether you are bold enough to wear your favorite color or not, add it into your life. Handbag, jewelry, or an accessory to add to an all black outfit, it will make you feel good. You can even be daring and buy a peacoat in that color. Woohoo! Be bold!

4. Accessories are your greatest tool. Sunglasses give such a fashion forward vibe and you can find them at any price point. Jewelry with a black tunic and leggings turns comfort into chic. Add boots. Any color or style works and reflects your personality. I love justfab.com or shoedazzle.com, they are awesome! Top if off with a scarf, which can actually be a great privacy tool for breastfeeding in public. Win-win! And make-up is a no brainer for me. It takes me five minutes to do foundation, blush, eyeshadow, line the tip lid, mascara, and lipstick. I think I may do a video on this. Red lipstick is a life changer, just sayin’! I’ll also share my friends’ jewelry websites. You don’t need to buy a tradition diaper bag when there are so many cool oversized handbags out there. Go on a hunt to Marshall’s or the Internet. Find a pattern or color that raises your mood just looking at it. Check the dimensions if looking online to assure it’s big enough.

5. Set an intention for the new you. Any change, after a baby, divorce, new job, birthday, move, or whatever means you are a new “you.” What will that look like? What will your life be like? What needs to change? What needs improvement. Get clear and don’t be sad. Self-reflection is essential for happiness. The world is your oyster. Being a mom doesn’t stop you from any dreams. I wrote a 500 page novel with five kids. You can do anything. But relax and enjoy your baby. Savor every day. Moments are what life is all about.

Lovies,rockstars!